Are you a dreamer

Hey you gorgeous being ! 

I was having a conversation the other day with a friend and they were alarmed that I don't dream anymore . I mean in my conscious mind , I cannot remember if I dreamed or not . My nights seem to be filled of sleep and that is all. The conversation really got me thinking . Like, is it weird not to dream ? 

Of course, I have my aspirations and hopes for the future but this is something that doesn't  appear in my unconscious mind 🙈. 

What is a dream ? 
 According to some definitions , a dream can be defined by; 

1.  A series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring in a person's mind during sleep.
2. A cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.

Reading on definitions really had me thinking about the blurred lines in my career . There are so much things I want to achieve but recently the drive is not there . Welcome to the world of self-doubt . 

The dream world can be a wonderful place to be , but reality often sits too comfortable with me which may have hindered by ability to dive in the unknown .

I used to be a dreamer and I believe it's a wonderful place to be . Got to have a few things in check and hopefully the free and wonderful world will be open to me ! 

Xxx
Kezzy 😘

Review: 'Find a home for my brother'

Hi guys , it has definitely been awhile. Blogging is very new to me , and it is so easy to lose focus and not post all the weird and wonderful things that come to our brains.

But anyways , this blog post is going to be a review about Amal Fashanu's documentary that screened on Wednesday 11th August 2015. The documentary was exploring provisions for young people and adults for in the UK and in Ghana.  Amal's brother Amir has a learning disability which effects his ability to communicate and proposes challenging behaviour, he is now 18 so the transition to adult services have arrived , but he is no longer in an appropriate setting. If you didn't catch this , here is the link:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b065g51h

Right so here is my two pence;

I would firstly like to thank BBC Three for having these documentaries to create awareness for disabled people and the issues they face . However , this documentary kept me on my toes and I was pretty much angry for the whole of the programme. This was mainly due to Amal's lack of education and ignorance around young people and adults with learning disabilities. The terminology she used was degrading and not once in the filming did she think to ask what Amir wanted.

She kept using words like 'normal' or he doesn't have a voice , or he won't have friends and lead a normal life.  Amal please do your research before you make a documentary. Disabled people have a voice ! It is just different to yours and you need to find ways to approach this.

Secondly , You visited Ghana and your brother may move to the Ivory Coast. Where is the logic? . Provisions are not the same , treatment is not the same, its a different country. You can't judge the conditions of one country in another.

Also, considering your father's income , a provision should be provided. Why would you wait till he is 18 to make such big decisions. Sorry , but the state did not fail Amir. I know a lot of care and support for disabled people have been cut , and this is no fault of them. But there are other things that could of been done ,contact a charity that helps young people with disabilities to explore the options. And finally , where is his social worker???

There is  a whole heap I wanted to post , but it will be crossing the line of rudeness . That is not what this blogpost is about.

Anyways, this is my opinion and I'm outty :)

University .... Do you need a degree to be successful?

In a time of soaring university prices and loans that seem to never end,  many question whether you should go to university as for many, it doesn't necessarily get you a job.

From 2-3 years old  we are taught to go to school , read your book and get a good education . You spend years in school learning and developing and some may say conditioned to believing that education is the only way to a successful lifestyle. On the contrast, many people have made it big without having GCSE's or having it as the bear minimum.

I believe this is a controversial topic as it often brings up heated arguments , but I am simply talking from my point of view.

See , I went to university and graduated in 2011, from 2008 - 2011 I probably had the biggest transition in my life . I was dealing with so many emotions and stresses, questioning what I was doing there , did I study the right subject, taking in loads of new information that frankly I thought my brain was going to pop. Despite this , I never considered dropping out . I did not take first year serious , which was probably a mistake but even though its too late for me , it definitely isn't for the younger generation .

See for me , university is an absolute necessity - if that is what you in to. I would never recommend university to a person that is not the book/study type and would much prefer to do hands on work. There are plenty of people that go to university for all the wrong reasons - money and partying. Yes, it is fun and you will experience loads of new things - especially if you live on campus. Not always pleasant , I must say :( .  But if your heart is not in it , then just don't do it!

That doesn't mean it might not be there in the future , but if you just finished A level's , BTEC courses and you don't feel mentally , physically or even mature enough to handle university then just do not do it. You won't perform to your best ability.

Why is university necessary to me?

You may make the assumption that I come from a family of university grads because of my attitude towards it . But this is far from the truth. There is the odd graduate in the family , but in my immediate family I'm the first to throw that cap in the air :).  But for me university was never not an option. I did not do the best at GCSE's , get caught up in that 'not caring' phase at the wrong time and then that carried on to my first year of 6th form. Then something hit me and it was just like - ' what do I want to do with my life? ' . I got my act together and just got cracking.

See I come from a Caribbean family , and the opportunities that we have, they could have only dreamed about it . So why shouldn't we utilise these opportunities .Yes, tuition fees are dreadful and the thought of a loan that you may have for 25+ years is terrifying. But if there is a place you want to get to in life , just use it.

The whole point of the loan is that one day , hopefully you will be earning so much that it should be almost nothing to you :).

I may not exactly be where I want to be , but my degree has opened doors for me that I could never even imagined.

So if there is just one thing you can take from this post , is seize your opportunities.

Stay blessed :)

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Lets take a moment to appreciate this tune!!!

Food for thought

Hi Guys,

Today has definitely been a day of reflection for me

You have the choice , the power to either

 dwell on situations or simply move on.

People will always try to give you their opinion on what you should do.

Whether it's about relationships , friendships , career choices.

I have come to realise that no matter how much you hear, nothing will change if you don't want to change.

It will always start with you!

You are the beholder of your own happiness.

You control your feelings.

Only you can control your own growth or hold yourself back.

I won't sit here and pretend it is easy , because I for one knows it isn't.

There will always be obstacles , which is not always in our control.

You can use that as strength to carry on , or give up. 

Guidance is needed, but you have to remember that there is a greater force out there.

He wants great things for you , and the only person holding you back is 

YOU!

What I'm currently reading?

Hi Guys... :)

I guess this is my first official post *covers eyes*
You know when you just forget that you started blogging and you get that random notification and you just think ' what the feck..'.. anyways lol

Let's crack on ...What have I been reading?

       

You left me no choice, Clarissa.

I just want to take you home, Clarissa.

I know your darkest secrets, Clarissa.

I have started reading ' The Book of You' by Clare Kendal.  Let me start of by saying this is not my usual type of read. Yes , it is fiction but this whole suspense thriller , doesn't always sit so well with me. But I was passing WHSmiths saw an offer sign and just thought , why not?

The story so far?

This book is about a woman named Clarissa who is terrified of her colleague, Rafe. He won't leave alone and he doesn't take no for an answer. Everywhere she goes , he's there.  Clarissa is called for Jury service ,  and this gives Clarissa a chance to escape Rafe. While the case unfolds it becomes clear that there is parallels between her own situation and that of the woman in the stand and unravels the twisted fairytale that Rafe has spun around them....

I won't reveal too much , not only to avoid a spoiler but I'm only half way through the book so theres not much I can tell ya',  There is some graphic scenes that will frankly make you feel tense and uncomfortable. Its a good read for now but its had me feeling a type of way *covers eyes*.


Anyways... I will be back at the end the week , hopefully I would of finished by then :)

See you later dumplin's ' *mwah*

Link for purchase:

http://www.whsmith.co.uk/products/the-book-of-you/9780007531677

Introducing....ME

Hi Guys!

Right let me start of by saying,  I have no clue what I'm doing  but blogging is something I have wanted to do for years but just never knew where to start and what I would actually say !

I started following various bloggers and vloggers and I thought FECK! why not ?

So here goes.....

A little about Moi!

Im 25 years old ...eeeek!!

I have a recent obsession with buying make-up and just have a ridiculous spending habit.

Im hoping developing this as a hobby will kind of restrain that feeling.

On this blog, I want to have discussions about TV shows , books , movies , make-up and clothing. Especially on the plus side for us curvier girls living in the UK. Im not too involved in the Fashion side of things , just because Im quite a basic dresser and wouldn't particularly say I know exactly what to wear , but I definitely know what I shouldn't be wearing. 

I just want this to be a place where I can discuss things with new people and expand my network regardless if its online! 

I see the relationships that bloggers have with subscribers and I think it is amazing. 

I like the feeling of talking to people that don't know your whole story , and can connect and relate to you. So yeah it is amazing.

Im rambling , so all I can stay is stay tuned *cheeky smirk*